MKMMA Week 8: Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones, Words Are Killing Me!

As it stands.

I am audaciously confident, brazenly certain, dogmatically sure, pretty convinced,  pleadingly hopeful that since you have been digging deep, examining closely, devouring completely, reading with close scrutiny, scanning and absorbing,……..glanced at a few pictures over the past couple of months here on this ongoing weekly  compendium, syllabus, personal development guidecheap wordpress blog  where you were enraptured, beguiled, enchanted, charmed, hypnotically, only mildly annoyed as I regaled you, captivated you, ecstasized you, delighted you, didn’t completely turn you off

I gotta take a break!

Blogging is not easy…..

So many thoughts, so many word choices …

I gotta be killing brain cells faster than I can regenerate new ones!

This course is tough tough tough!

Finally this week I got a break.

I only have to concentrate on two words.

But you know me…….. I had to ask my self a question

“Self,” I asked, “why didn’t they teach the two words eight weeks ago?”

It was then that I realized how powerful these words were in combination, a literal dynamic duo!

Here is the Alpha and the Omega in 6 minutes.

You”re welcome!

Don Grantham

MKMMA Week 7: Jerked Back From The Edge of The Precipice

Based on my history, you had to know that this story was coming.

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Last week was the sixth week of my participation in the MKMMA course to a better me.

If you have been following my story you know that I have a habit of starting one of these things, losing interest or finding it too difficult or having it cut into my precious personal time and quitting to begin the search for the next “ready to eat, in the box microwavable” personal development program.  You know, the one where you “just add water and microwave on high for 3 minutes.”
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Such was the case this past week.  The leaders have added activities and responsibilities every week to the point that it feels that we have a second job.

I won’t bore you with the details but the personal development part of my day (the second job) looks like this.

5 -6 am  read materials from course and sit and meditate.
6:15 am exercise
7:30 am in shower, get ready, go to work

Monday dawned as usual … I am supposed to be up at 5 am to start my personal development exercises. ( takes about an hour to complete)  The problem?  I didn’t get up until 6 am.

You no doubt see the problem right?

So I justified to myself that I would catch up as the day progressed. ( that’s what everybody does right?)

My schedule dictates that I work on my personal development while driving to work.  The activities are easy… so easy a 4th grader can do it!  If you can remember 4 colors and 4 shapes….. you can do it.

Well today I was mad at myself for  over sleeping and my non-performance and berated myself almost the entire way before I realized that I had forgotten to do my colors and shapes.  Oh well I am at work now,  ” I’ll catch up later.”  ( I’m starting to see a pattern… are you>)

My next scheduled personal activities happen on lunch my lunch break.  More reading more affirmations lets call it another 30 minutes.

My job required me to work through my lunch period… so I didn’t do my personal work.  I rationalized that I would catch up later in the day. (sound familiar?)

The rest of my work day was uneventful and at around 5:30 I headed home.

Now remember, I am supposed to utilize travel time to advance my skills.

What do you think I did?

That’s right, I turned on the car radio and listened to two guys talk about how pitiful the Dallas Cowboys are….. as if I didn’t know already.

My rationale for not doing my work while driving was very simple.  I told my self, ” heck you’ve already wasted today… you can start fresh tomorrow.

Needless to say, I did not do my night work either… unless you call watching Monday Night Football work.

Monday became Tuesday, Tuesday birthed Wednesday which led to Thursday and I had not done a stitch of the work that I was supposed to do…

I saw the handwriting on the wall….  too much trouble, takes too much time,  too hard…… I was in quit mode again

Before bed on Thursday night I checked my email and saw that I had a message from  Mark Januszewski who is the head honcho of the school thanking me for attending his seminar class.  ( head honcho working… me watching Thursday Night Football. guess that’s why he lives in Hawaii”

I opened the message and to my surprise found this  blog page.  You need to read it and can do so by clicking on the picture.
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or See The Blog Page Here

How did he know exactly what I was going through?

How did he know that I needed that message that very day?

Oh that’s right…. he has lived it too!

I sat down at my desk that very moment and recommitted to myself and this journey.

I am half way through week seven and feeling good about my decision.

Thank you divine intervention and  thank you Mark J.

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Don

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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MKMMA 6: I’m Gonna Need A Longer Week

As last we discussed I felt that I was beginning to make a breakthrough.

Me thinks I may have high-fived prematurely.

Just when I thought or “felt”  that I was making progress they threw my a high hanging curve ball.

And I gotta tell you… it was a swing and a miss for me!
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It seemed simple enough as they explained it.  All I had to do is offer No Opinions to anyone I came in contact with … unless I was considered an Expert on the subject they were discussing.

Easy enough… right?  Just like mom used to say, “keep your opinions to yourself, zip your lip.”

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I didn’t make it through the first hour of the first day!  I never realized how free I was with my two cents worth or how free everyone else is with their pontificating penny’s.
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Tomorrow as you go through your day I want you to think about this and just listen to the number of opinions and all of the advice you hear other people offering up.  Then consider their level of expertise on the subject.  I think you will be as surprised as I have been.

One last note,

I did a quick calculation and determined that if every person in the country were required to actually pay two cents when they gave their opinion that in a couple of months the kitty would be large enough to payoff the federal debt.

At least, “that’s my opinion!”

Talk to you later,

Don Grantham

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MKMMA Week 5: Dreams, Barney the Dinosaur and B.J. Thomas..really?

Well another week has gone by and it’s time for my to report.

I am sure that you can see from our previous conversations that this course contends that we are all (most of us) mentally screwed up due to the millions and millions of occurrences (good and bad) that happen to us throughout our lifetimes.

They contend that the emotion that we feel at the time of the occurrence and the occurrence are tied together and stored in our subconscious forever.

For example lets say that as a kid that you were the worst player in your whole class in hop scotch.  Every day when you joined in, the rest of the class laughed and made fun of your efforts.  This continues the entire school year.

During this period your subconscious is recording each episode of you and your failing efforts.  And let’s be honest we ALL fail at a lot of things in our lifetime.  Our personal mental video archives are immense.

As time goes by you are offered new life challenges where you are judged. Guess what your subconscious does?

With each challenge your subconscious goes back in its video archives and sees what happened previously in like situations.  When it finds something familiar it plays it for you on the spot.   You immediately see the video and re-experience the emotion you felt before.  Why?

One of the jobs of our subconscious is to keep us safe mentally and physically.  By showing you the Warning Video it hopes to keep you safe from emotional or physical pain.

The problem is…. by the time we are grown we are so stunted and afraid of embarrassing ourselves that we quit trying to do anything that might put us at emotional risk.

This is a big big part of what this course is trying to make us aware of.

Now you already know that I’m not a touchy-feely  kind of guy and I am not one to sit and discuss my innermost thoughts and fears because that’s just not what guys do… right!

OK… maybe that’s a little silly.. but that’s kinda how I feel about vulnerability.

So what’s this about?

One of this weeks exercise directed me to sit quietly for 15 minutes and remember a pleasant time and place in my life.

Now I’ve lived a pretty good full life (my opinion) and I thought this would be easy.

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The more I tried to think of the perfect place the more I was reminded of something that wasn’t perfect about it.  Does that make any sense?

So I tried thinking of another place in time…. guess what?   Same results.  My subconscious could come up with negatives faster than I could remember places, people and times.

Did they give me this chore just to prove a point?

Me thinks so!

I voiced my results to my coach and she recommended that I should sit again and focus on  all the bad results and occurrences in my life and then ask my subconscious what to do.  ( are  you starting to hear the Barney song again?)

Against my better manly stoic logic I agreed to try it.

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The next morning I got up as usual and decided to try it first thing.

I went into the living room.  I set the timer for 20 minutes.

I sat down on the sofa closed my eyes and begin trying to relax my whole body and totally clear my mind. ( trying to keep a blank mind is really tough.. try it for even 5 minutes)

So once i felt kinda blank I started thinking about the lifelong pile of garbage that was in my mind.

Nothing happened….

Nothing happened…

And then,

Almost like a dream I saw a large warehouse like an airplane hangar.  Inside this hangar was all my mental garbage.  Hundreds of giant pallets with all the bad results and occurrences in my life.  I was astounded how neatly arranged and organized they were.  I guess my subconscious needed for them to be organized for easy retrieval. Lucky me huh?
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While I was marveling at the massive amount of “stuff”  a man on a yellow construction tractor showed up and commenced to push all of my stuff out of the hangar onto the giant concrete pad out front.

Once everything was moved out he handed me a broom and told me to sweep the hangar and knock all of the cobwebs from the walls and ceiling.  After completing my work I walked outside to find him burning my giant pile of trash.

I vividly remember the heat of the fire and looking back inside the hangar and thinking how clean and empty it was.
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I snapped at the sound of my timer going off.  Twenty minutes had disappeared in the blink of an eye.  I remember thinking, “did I fall asleep?

Four days later I still can’t answer that question but I do know this.

Every day I clearly see that empty pristine clean hangar and every time I start to have a bad thought I hear a voice that says,” that doesn’t go in the hangar”

It has now been four days since and only “Good Stuff” is in the hangar.  I also feel really good about myself and feel amazingly free.

Is it more than a feeling?  I don’t know but I will keep you in the loop as it plays out.

Have a great week

Don

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MKMMA Week 4 Blinded By The Light or A Flash In The Pan

So I won’t!  LOL!

I know I promised to get back to you sooner but I had a program malfunction ( you’re thinking about Janet Jackson aren’t you?) that kept me away from the keyboard.  It is what it is.

Well here we are,  the beginning of week number four and I’m still here.
Truth is… I’m feeling pretty good about this whole thing.

Now I don’t pretend to act like I know whats really happening but here is how I see it.

In the past I hoped and wished that I could improve myself in every facet of my life but was unwilling to put in the work to make it happen.

I was looking for a ten minute microwaveable version.  I wanted the chocolate chip cookies that you simply shove in the oven for 12 minutes.  Bottom line…I wanted change but I wasn’t willing to put in the time or work.

Here is my Blinded By  The Light moment.

The class leaders explained that it had taken years for me to bake the messy cake that had become my life and that it would take diligent work and a little time to make the MY new beautiful cake.

It hit me like a bolt of…

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That has always been the problem in this decade long quest.  I expected Tony Robbins or whoever my current favorite guru was to cause the change in me in less than thirty days.  I held them responsible for changing me.

So here’s the deal.

I have committed to myself that I will stick with this for another thirty days and do everything that my handlers in the Master Keys program suggest I do.

They seem pretty confident that if I do what they say that I will begin noticing a difference.  I guess we will see won’t we.

So hang loose and in the next post I will give you an idea of Exactly What I do and you can judge for yourself.

Until then… don’t put aluminum foil in the microwave! or you’ll just get a flash in the pan!  ( stupid huh?)
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Till then,

Don

 

 

MKMMA Week 3 Cowboys vs Patriots on Any Sunday

So here we are week number three and I’m still in.   When we last talked I told you that my personal “stick to it” history was not very good.  But here I am still in the race so lets talk.

We had our third instructional seminar this past Sunday and I was conflicted to say the least.  The class lasts two to three hours and begins promptly at 3:00 pm CST.  The problem ?  The Dallas Cowboys New England Patriot game commenced at the exact same time.2015-10-13_1310

 

 

 

Should I…..

Call the 2015-10-13_1318teacher and make an excuse?   ( he is a Patriots fan by the way)

Just not show up and give a lame excuse later?

Could this level of thinking be the main cause for my shortcomings in life?  LOL!

 

 

What did I do?

Drum roll please…………………………………………..

I decided to record the game and attend class.  ( not my normal thinking)

Maybe this stuff is starting to work?

Maybe I am starting to think differently?

I have been doing my reading and mental exercises faithfully numerous times a day as prescribed.

Is there a “secret hidden change” taking place inside me that I don’t actually see yet?

Could this program actually be working where all the others have failed before?

Let me think about this and I’ll get back to you.

Thanks for putting up with my ramblings…  you are a good listener.

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Don

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MKMMA week 2 Quija Board To A New Life?

As we have touched on in previous conversations, the purpose of the Master Keys program is for me to finally learn of my true purpose in life,( what I want) and how to acquire it and enjoy a life most people only dream of.

I briefly described some of the activities and mental exercises that had been prescribed in earlier posts.

The driving force of the entire curriculum is a self constructed document they call DMP (definite major purpose).

Now as I understand it, the DMP is the equivalent of the rudder on a boat.  It is the steering mechanism for the massive potential that is in each of us.
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I think we would all agree that a boat can have the most powerful propulsion system on the planet but if it can’t be steered it is a useless boat.

Last week I started feebly working on my personal DMP and feebly may be too strong a word, I just can’t think of a weaker one at the moment.

Now in order to begin building my DMP I had to choose two pivotal needs out of seven potential choices.

Here they are:
Legacy- leaving a lasting impression
Autonomy – answer to no one
Spiritual Growth- self explanatory
Liberty money to do what you want
Recognition for Creative Expression- self explanatory
Helping Others- self explanatory
True Health- mental, physical, and spiritual.

It’s hard to believe that our overcomplicated lives come down to seven basic needs huh?  Do you agree?  The people who designed this are pretty smart I guess they know.

Which two would You pick?

Hard to decide isn’t it?  I mean it’s only your future life depending on YOU making the right choice.

What if I told you there was a proven scientific method by which you can choose your two pivotal needs without the possibility of making a wrong choice?  You’d be feeling safer right?

Now we’re getting somewhere right?

Ok, here’s what you do.

Get a sheet of paper and copy down the seven choices using the hand you DO NOT normally write with.  (  I told you it was scientific right?)

Here’s mine so you don’t feel bad.  You’ll notice that I gave up trying to number them out of frustration and left-handed abbreviations rule!

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Now for the advanced scientific part…. ready?

Look up at the ceiling for 20 seconds and clear your head of all thoughts.

Ready?

Now look down at your paper and without thinking circle the two pivotal needs that jump out at you, don’t hesitate pick two
or maybe try this old tried and true method.

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Ok, maybe I am being a little sarcastic but you gotta admit from a believability standpoint they are close.

As you can see from my left-handed scrawling, apparently I was divined to pick Liberty and True Health which is interesting.  You see Liberty refers to having enough money that you have no financial concerns.  True Health pertains to perfect Physical, Mental and Spiritual health.

Here’s the interesting part to me.

You can have all the money in the world but if you are not healthy, money is of no value to  you, and if you are healthy but living under a bridge for lack of money you are equally miserable.

Now I’m a good sport…. I turned in my DMP to my personal MKMMA guide/coach Marea who claims that if I will Do The Work and Try my dreams will come to fruition.

You know my history… if not…. scroll down a few pages and check it out.

Stay tuned and I’ll update you in a couple of days.

 

Have a great weekend and don’t work too hard!


Don

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MKMMA Week 2 Should I Stay Of Should I Go?

So here we are starting week two of my newest journey into self-discovery/ personal fulfillment.  You will recall from our previous conversation that I am notorious for starting something and then quitting when I don’t experience instant gratification.

I read the first couple of chapters of Tony Robbins… no big change I quit..

The Purpose Driven Life, twenty different John C Maxwell books, 7 Habits, books_1books_2
Expect To Win, Train Your Brain, The Happiness Advantage, The New Psycho Cybernetics, The 10X Rule, The Success Principles, The E Myth Revisited, Ten commitments To Your Success….. and on and on  all with the same results.
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When it didn’t “just happen” or “fall into my lap” or happen in less time than it takes to microwave leftovers… I quit and went looking for the next latest, greatest, quickest way to be a better me.
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So let me repeat the first line again.  Here we are in week two and I here the melody of a familiar song, “should I stay or should I go?”

This week I have many assignments from the course leaders which involve deciding who I want to be, what I want to accomplish and writing it down in 400 words or less.  They call this a DMP, which stands for definite major purpose.  Sounds easy… it’s not.

I am told that non completion of this step is not an option.
( I think they are serious too)

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I have also been given several multi-page daily

readings to do.  I guess I should actually call them daily dramatic readings.  I am instructed to read all of the pages out loud with GUSTO.  They tell me that by doing this I will influence my subconscious to take the new instructions on what I want in my new life.
The readings include pages from Og Mandinos The Greatest Salesman, and Haanels Master Key.  I must also read aloud from two index cards, one is called a chore card and the other is the DMP card.  Oh and I can’t forget the BPB, Blue Print Builder that is also required reading along with the 400 word DMP (see above) that I must revise and turn in by Thursday night.

I know what you’re saying,  that doesn’t sound like much… but some of these readings are three times a day and some up to twenty-five times a day.

Who has the time for all of this I ask?

They told me that a week has 168 hours and if I subtract the time I work, the time I drive to work, time for sleep, time for family and family obligations and another 25 hours for errands, shopping and miscellaneous stuff that the average person still has 25-40 hours unspoken for each week.  I said “no way,” they smiled and suggested that I look at my weekly television viewing schedule.book_3

Really?  Now they are going to suggest that I give up 3-5 hours of quality television programs every night and football on the weekends?book_5

They told me that the average person wastes about ninty minutes a day on social media, Facebook, Twitter and the likes.book_4

I guess that takes my “I’m busy and don’t have time” excuse away.book_9

I guess I’d better stop bitching and get to work.
Thanks for lending me your ear so I could vent!

I’ll get back to you with more details and updates as I proceed (or don’t) on this journey.

Have a great day,

Don

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MkMMA Week 1 The Rise and Fall of Three Bears Personal Development Co.

In the last decade I have spent tens of thousands of dollars for courses offered both on the internet and in person by some of the biggest names in the business, I have spent hundreds of dollars on books, cd’s and dvd’s. All with the hope of finding out who I am, what’s my purpose, and how to be a better me.  Blah Blah Blah Blah Blah

It was the same story time after time.

I would hear about a “new method” a “new way of thinking” ” a new formula for success” ” an easier no effort way” ….a……..

You get the idea right?

I was looking for the Three Bears Method,  you know the one that’s just right!

For a decade I jumped from program to program, and guru to guru.

I made so many jumps that I probably should have qualified for my jump school Paratrooper Wings!

It was the same story every time.

I would hear about something new…

I would up the money and order everything they offered.

The material would arrive… I would try really hard…. for a couple of weeks.… realize it wasn’t working…… or I didn’t like it… or it was inconvenient..  so I would…. Bail Out!

That’s right  I’d jump out of the plane……pull my ripcord and float to the next “thing”

I did this several times a year for over 10 years.

I spent a fortune, got no results and was very frustrated!

 Will History Repeat Itself?

So once again here I am again starting a new program….

Next week is the week I usually check it in and jump…

It’s Decision Time!

But here’s the difference,  I will not jump this time.

I will not only see this through but I am going to do my best.

So why am I telling you?

Maybe you know someone who this could help.  I am going to do the work in the course and journal my experiences on these pages.

It most certainly will be The Good The Bad and The Ugly!

So I invite you to follow along and invite anyone who you think this might help to join us too.

Who knows…… you and I might help someone

Talk to you soon,

Don

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Week 1 Tell Me Why Why O Why You Cry

As you know from the previous couple of posts,  I have applied for and been accepted into a very selective learning experience that is available once a year and only by scholarship.  This immersion experience is called the Master Keys.

The purpose of the Master Keys is self- discovery.  Now I know what you’re thinking… “oh it’s one of those touchy feely online things.”
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I assure you it’s not, but more about that later!

So why am I doing this?

Well if you remember from my first post,  for almost 43 years I have2015-09-30_1131
half-assed my way through life depending on raw talent to pay my way.  As I mentioned earlier, raw talent has made it possible for me to play in lifes game but never be a champion.

The reason is simple.

I would start something I thought was interesting or profitable.  Raw talent and enthusiasm would kick in and I would experience early success.

Sounds great… right?

Well the problem is that at some point the levels and stakes of the game are raised.  At these raised levels are other players who not only have raw talent and enthusiasm, but they have worked, practiced and honed their skills to another level.  They are masters at what they do.

My response in the past was to go find another game because I was not interested in playing the game past raw talent and enthusiasm.

Lifes scoreboard reflects the outcome to date and it is a lopsided score not in my favor!
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That is the reason I am here.

There is an old saying, “if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you always gotten.”

This year I am doing somthing new, something different, something that will provide me a Different result.

I am jumping into this new life with reckless abandon.  I am going to do the work, experience the pain, and come out the other side a changed person.

I will post about this journey on a regular basis.

I invite you to tag along and if any part of my story rings true with you maybe you will gain some value too.

Please feel free to comment or offer suggestions you think will be beneficial to me or other readers.

It’s all about, Body- Balance- Being- Business

Don

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